Friday, March 27, 2009

A rant for those who could care less....

I'm writing this for all of my blogging friends...

Who really needs the added hassle of an anonymous commenter that writes with nasty sarcasm and vile towards something you've written?

I can't think of one.

Unless you're really into it, I guess.

As a form of self-flagellation, I could understand posting controversial things in order to mentally flog your self-esteem, and cause emotional scarring.

Other than that reason, I can't think of any use for an acidic remark from anonymous posters.

What could make someone want to spew nastiness on a person's webpage, and then decide to remain anonymous instead of stand up for their opinion or comment?

I mean, when I've got something to say, I really make no apologies for it, and say what I feel. If it's taken in the wrong context, I can better explain my meaning, but for the most part I'll make no defense for my opinion. However, I'll also make sure that folks know who it is who's doing the talking, and not wonder about the nameless faceless ass who rants and raves but doesn't believe in taking credit (or blame) for their decisions and actions.

In this day and age, it seems to me that it's more acceptible now to be faceless. That way, you can do or say what you want, and yet be "appropriate" when it 'really' matters.

Public opinion is as fickle as a teenage girl choosing a boy for her prom. They want it to look good, yet be fashionable. Trendy. Something that they're willing to show off, and make themselves look good.

This blog of mine isn't like that. If that's what you're looking for, let me save you the trouble. Go someplace else. I'm opinionated, and I really could care less if you agree or disagree with my stance. What I'm about here is letting you all know who I am, what I stand for, and what I believe in. Plain, simple, to the point.

No, it's not always going to be factual. Why? Because I'm going to be giving it my personal slant. A sliver I get might only be a tiny piece, yet the pain it caused me could make me feel that I've found Paul Bunyan's lost twig, and it's pierced me to my core.

That's called creative writing. Deal with it.

In closing, I'd just like to say that I don't mind comments. I love them, actually.

What I'd really like is for all that comment to at least own up to these comments, and not be some nameless faceless lump with acid for a tongue, and decide that anything and everything that I write is crap because it doesn't jive with what they believe in.

Be a real person, and disagree with me. But do it with a bit of dignity, and own up to your comment.

I'm done for now.

Have a nice day.


Hubman said...

I really hate asshat commenters who hide behind the veil of anonymity. The way I feel, if you don't like my blog, just go away. Don't go away mad, just go away.

Keep on writing what you want man!! It's all good with me...

Jaime said...

okay...what comment set you off this morning? :)

Lu' said...

Right on! I popped on over from Dana's place.

Biscuit said...

I've managed to avoid trolls, for the most part. I'm sure that's because I write mostly fluff. I'm a firm believer in owning one's words. Why say something if you're ashamed to put your name on it?

Another Suburban Mom said...

I do hate the rude people. There must be a million blogs out there. Go find one you like and leave the author alone!

Tracys Ramblings said...

Who is this Anonymous commenter and where is their comment???
Listen, Jorm, I hope that whatever this anonymous ass said doesn't effect the way you write on here. I have always admired how you could write with such honesty and, whether I agreed with your stand or not, you have a way of showing me the other side of things.
I don't want that to end because one coward out there in the cyber world gave their opinion but couldn't stand by it by giving their name. That tells me that, while they may agree with you, they're ashamed to admit it in person.
I once had a commenter who read a post where I had had a rough day. It was during the summer and all three kids were home. I was sick but wasn't ready to admit it yet to anyone, especially myself.
And my kids were being kids and I wrote a post where I vented about how sometimes, being a stay at home parent can be HARD. That was the whole reason I started Rambling Thoughts in the first place, to vent, to ramble, and, sometimes, to remind myself that I am still me, I still exist and being a sahm isn't the only thing that defines me. But anyone who has read my blog long enough knows that I dearly love my children and am so thankful for the opportunity to stay home and raise them. It was just a bad day.
I then went on the next day to read my comments, and I had several from people who totally understood, but there was this one comment, anonymous of course, who said to me:
Maybe if you got up off of your fat ass and off the computer, your kids wouldn't be such assholes. You don't deserve your children because you are a terrible mother.

That comment was left on my place two years ago and I can still quote it word for word today. That was one of the most hurtful comment and even though I had all of the other comments from my "cyber friends", who understood and could sympathize, that comment was the one that stuck with me.
I almost shut down my blog that day and what's worse, I started questioning myself as a parent.
But the more I thought about it, the angrier I got. This one person, this coward, had stumbled upon my blog on a day that I was venting and felt that they knew me well enough from that one comment well enough to judge me.
So, not only did I not shut down my blog, or delete that comment, my next post was all about that coward and their anonymous comment. I told them where to stick that comment, I told them that if they didn't like my blog, they were lucky enough to have millions of other blogs to read, and I made fun of them and the comments on that post from my "cyber friends" were so supportive.
I also wrote in that post that I wasn't going to make a list of things that I did as a mother everyday to prove what kind of parent I was because my kids are living proof that they have good parents.

My point is, don't feel that you have to explain yourself, justify your thoughts and opinions, or change anything about the way you write on your blog.
This person was a coward.
You are not.

Tracys Ramblings said...

Um, sorry that comment was so long. I just tend to get a little worked up over stuff like that.

Real Live Lesbian said...

Dammit, I'd love to disagree with you ....but I just can't! lol

I agree!

Anonymous said...

I'm just popping around today exploring new blogs and looking for awesome people. I love this post and I agree with you 110%.

Trolls are bullies and my Dad taught me that bullies are only that way because they feel so dirty and nasty about themselves that they have to hurt other people in order to make themselves feel better about their own inadequacies.

I arrived here from Amid Life's Crises and I can see why you two get along so well, she (and you) seem like wonderful open people. Its a refreshing thing to see and it makes me quite happy :-)

Have a great day!